Monday, December 14, 2009

Another year almost over...

I can't believe 2009 is almost over. Time sure does seem to fly. I hope this finds everyone healthy and enjoying the holiday season.

Well, another year has come and gone again and we still haven't been to China to pick up our little girl. This was an extremely slow year for referrals from China. It took them a whole year to get through one month! This had been talked about in the adoption circle how the month of March 2006 was a huge month and would take a long time to get through. What that means is that there were a lot of dossiers submitted by people to China and so it took a long time to get through. We are told by our agency that China is continuing to address the length of the wait for referrals. Before and through March 2006, we are told that there were alot of dossiers submitted but after March it dropped off somewhat. So we hope that is true and that now the referrals could move along a little more quickly, but only time will tell. China's Center of Adoption Affairs has a new director now as well so I don't know what that will mean for us. They continue to try to get more orphanages to do international adoptions, but I guess it costs more to get a child ready for an international adoption because of the medical exams that need to be done to make sure the child is able to be adopted. Different organizations are working at raising money for these orphanages so that more children can be adopted. So we continue to wait. It's been 40 months now that we've been waiting for our little one from China.

As you may have read in the last post, we have decided to adopt from Ethiopia as well. I still need to get paperwork done for that and we need to have another homestudy done for this adoption. We would like to adopt a little boy and name him Samuel. So there is still a lot to be done with this adoption and I think I will finally have the time to work on what needs to be done. I think this adoption should move along quicker than the China adoption. So we'll see what happens.

We've had a busy year. We've been very thankful that Ron has continued to be able to work with the economy the way it is. Even though he works for a small company there was only a short time in the spring when they had to lay off their workers but everyone was called back by summer and they have been pretty busy since then. I continue to babysit for our neighbor's daughter every day. Since our neighbor is a teacher I still get the breaks that I'm used to getting as a teacher which is really nice. The little girl I babysit turned 2 a couple of months ago. It has been so fun to watch her grow and develop (since I started with her at 3 months old) and get some hands on experience before we have our own children. She is pretty attached to me and calls me "her Mary"! I also babysit one day a week for a friend's two children. Those children are 5 years old and 2 years old. My friend is also on the school schedule so that is nice. I've also been working a couple evenings a week for an organization called Goldenrod. They provide respite care and community habilitation for handicapped children and adults. I had two clients - one a little girl that I provided respite care for and a young woman I provided mostly community habilitation. So between babysitting and then working evenings plus being involved with our church and other responsibilities, I began feeling overwhelmed and like Ron and I didn't have much time together. So after much praying and soul searching I felt like I needed to give up my hours with Goldenrod. I enjoyed the work very much but felt like I couldn't give the time and energy that I wanted to. Plus Ron and I have had only one car for the past year and a half and it was a little tricky making everything work. We always found a way to make it work somehow. Surprisingly it has worked out pretty well for us to only have the one car.

Ron and I continue to be very involved with our church. We really enjoy the people. Ron heads up the Men's group and I do the Women's group. I continue to be on the Leadership Team and starting in January we will also be helping with the youth. This youth group is much smaller than the one we helped with at our former church. Since we taught Sunday school for the junior high and high school kids we already know the kids and enjoy being with them, so I think we will enjoy this.

The women's group just completed a study with the book Crazy Love by Francis Chan. What a great book! Someone had recommended it to me and so I suggested it for our group and we really got a lot out of it. I would recommend this to any of you. It makes you look at your life as a Christian and think about how you're living that life and if it's really how Jesus taught us to live. It's very challenging and thought provoking.

I think that is pretty much a wrap up of our year. It's hard to believe that another year has gone by. We're really hoping that by next year at this time we will have at least one of our children, if not both!! We keep praying and waiting. We would love your prayers as we wait. Have a wonderful Christmas and may we all remember the true meaning of Christmas!


Kristi said...

I still pray for you often as you endure this wait! May 2010 be a year of infinate blessings for you guys!
And I've been meaning to pick up Crazy Love and read it myself. I've heard wonderful things about it!

Anonymous said...

Mary, we are in the same spot as you, but our LID is a few months before you and we have been waiting longer. We are also considering a concurrent adoption - maybe Ethiopia - and are waiting on our Lord to direct us. If you have time, email me at We are north of Denver now but I used to be a Hoosier like you. :)