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Tuesday, June 22, 2010
I'm getting some pictures uploaded today but it is taking very long. I don't know if it's the connection here or what. The pictures are of yesterday when we were at the Civil Affairs office after we first met Marisa and throughout that morning. Today we went back to the Civil Affairs office to proceed with the adoption. They give a family 24 hours to decide if they want to proceed with the adoption or not. So this morning we returned to the Civil Affairs office to register the adoption and we received the official adoption decree. We are now officially Marisa YiChen's parents! We also went to the Police Station to register for a passport for Marisa. That will be ready on Friday. She had to have her picture taken again today and it seems like in all of these official pictures she has been crying and doesn't look like herself.
This morning we also stopped at the Children's Hospital where Marisa was left to be found. We do not have any other details about why she was left. She was left with a small bracelet and little purse or something. But we are not allowed to have those things, they are kept by the Civil Affairs office I guess. I do not really understand why Marisa can't have what is her's but I guess that's the way the Chinese government works. So we took some pictures of the hospital. And in talking to our guide she said Marisa could've been left by a single mother because single mothers are not looked very highly upon. And if she was raised by a single mother she wouldn't have been able to get an ID card or go to school. So if Marisa's mother was single she would've thought it best to leave her child in hopes of a better future. So we'll never know to tell Marisa but I'm sure her mother left her only because she didn't feel she could provide for her and hoped someone else would be able to.
We have spent time in the hotel again this afternoon. I brought lunch back to hotel for us. Then we put Marisa down for a nap. She laid in her crib and did fall asleep and slept for a couple of hours. We were also able to take a nap while she did. After she woke up she let us know she had to use the bathroom and then she wanted to lay back in the crib. She is doing better today. She has reached for us each again at different times. She makes eye contact. All these things are good and mean progress toward her attaching to us. Tonight we are going to try to give her a bath. The orphanage reported she does like baths but for us to give it to her maybe a different story. She does like to have her face and hands washed with a wash cloth. She seems to be learning what yes and no mean. She has typical two year old behaviors where she wants to do everything herself and not let us help or sometimes she has to be told she can't do something.
This evening we had dinner in the room again. It's pretty sad when your child gets excited when she sees the bag and knows that's dinner! It will be different once we get home. What's hard is she wants what we're eating and usually what we're eating she can't have. For the most part we're doing okay with her diet, I think. I'm trying to be very conscious of what is low in protein or has no protein. It's been a little difficult when we're not as familiar with the food and how it might be prepared. So hopefully we're doing okay with that. I guess once we get home and meet with the dietician and Marisa's Phe (phenylalanine) levels have been checked, we'll know better what she can and can't eat.
Today it seems like Marisa is starting to trust us more. She calls us mama and baba (daddy). Today as she was looking at the little photo album with pictures we'd sent her, she points to the picture of our cat and I told her kitty says "meow" and so now she points to Zoe (the cat) and says "meow" all the time. She also will repeat some words we say, like "bye-bye", "please". One thing we found she likes to play with is paper. I had brought some scrap paper and so we tore some into smaller pieces and she'll put those in her purse then take them out and then back in, etc. The orphanage had sent a little pink purse with her and she likes to carry that around and put things in it. The thing I'm excited about as a teacher is that she seems to take an interest in words that she sees on paper and she points to them almost like she is pretending to read what it says.
Tomorrow we will be going to West Lake which is a very nice lake here in Hangzhou. And actually tonight was the first night we have actually been able to see it from our room. It has been very hazy most days - actually it's smog I guess. We will also be going to the orphanage tomorrow to drop off our donation. We were denied a tour of the orphanage but at least this way we'll be able to see a little of the area. I guess it is a very nice orphanage as far as the facilities and things. Tomorrow will be our last full day here. On Thursday we will be flying to Guangzhou so that Marisa can have a TB test done. We and another family will be flying in to Guangzhou a day early or our girls can have the TB test done. The other families we were with in Beijing will meet up with us in Guangzhou on Friday then. It's hard to believe we've been here for almost a week. I am tired of living out of a suitcase already. I'll be glad once we're in Guangzhou since that will be our last stop and we'll be staying there for a week and not have to change hotels for a while. Of course, we will be going to Hong Kong after that for one night and then flying home. In talking with the other families from our group, I think they are all doing the same thing - going to Hong Kong for one night and then flying home from there. That's kind of nice that we'll still be together.
Well, I think I will end for now. I know some of my thoughts are kind of random. As I thought of things I would write about them. Hopefully my thoughts make sense. So until tomorrow.....